Has anyone ever called you "toxic" before?

Has your BFF, "the one," a co-worker, and/or family member cut you off with no explanation?

If you can answer "yes" to the above questions, know that you're not alone.

I've been where you are: reeling from the loss of yet another close relationship and clueless as to why this kept happening to me.

I then had to come to the painful realization that maybe the problem was...me.

Maybe there was something about ME that was driving these other people away.

After years of study as a researcher and then relationship coach, I now have a science-backed method to help ANYONE address their own toxic behaviors.

If you've felt stuck and hopeless, doomed to keep having unsatisfying relationships, then this course is for you!

The 4 A's

A Four-Step Method for Identifying and Overcoming Toxic Behaviors

  • Awareness

    Learn about each of the most common toxic behaviors, their nature, and consequences.

  • Acceptance

    Discover the toxic behaviors most present in your life and become conscious of their negative connections to your relationships.

  • Action

    Follow science-backed advice to take responsibility for your own behavior and begin getting better today.

  • Application

    Navigate applying healthy behaviors in place of your old toxic ones with yourself, present relationships, and future ones.

Course curriculum

  • 1


  • 2


  • 3


    • How to practice acceptance

    • Exercise 1

    • Which Toxic Behaviors Do You Have? Questionnaire

    • Inventory

  • 4


    • Exercise 1

    • Discovering the opposite

    • Create an action plan

    • How to hold to your action plan

  • 5


    • How to assess if a goal is working

    • Exercise 1

  • 6


    • Final Word


Terrified but in a good way

Paul W.

After at least 5 years of very toxic behaviors I came to the realization I needed help. This was brought on by Tara Blair-Ball's instagram which I started to follow by pure accident. Over the course of about 4 or 5 months I really started to ingest the conversations about toxicity and saw myself in her reels about the subject. I didn't like it. I was surprised one day to see her say that SHE was actually a toxic behaver in a past relationship. She recommended one of her articles and boom, read it and realized I was acting in a toxic way. I took this course as a way to being my journey to healing and being a better person/spouse/friend/ and even though they might not deserve it, employee. Working through the course has been hard. The list of behaviors is really not easy to go through because it turns out being toxic is really like a seeping poison that extends to so many places. I have really been pushed and shaken and I highly recommend taking this course if you want to be a better version of yourself for yourself and others. Don't shy away. Toxic you is ruining your life and probably helping to ruin the lives/days of others too.

Angel D.

So important. People are so quick to call out another's toxic behaviors, but it's a much harder task realizing we are sometimes the toxic one.

Dr. Maria K.

Self reflection is so important. I think that some people do just come and go in our lives and we ought to let them go. It may not always be a reflection on us, which is a point made in this course, and we must also be fair when assessing ourselves and our role or otherwise in these endings.


Brava! Working through this helped me see which of these behaviors I grew up with, which ones I have moderated, and which ones threaten to come on board yet. Oh, yeah, and the ones that currently run me. Grateful that you’d put together something so thoughtful and potentially challenging. Thank you!

Paul L.

I think all of us can benefit from a little self-reflection about our relationships to see where we are becoming our own worst enemies. To me, it is extremely important and I'm motivated to work on the behavior.

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About Me

Certified Relationship Coach

Tara Blair Ball

Tara Blair Ball is a certified Relationship Coach and author of Grateful in Love, A Couples Goals Journal, and Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships. She's also a cohost with Dr. Kerry McAvoy for the podcast, Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse. She specializes in empowering clients to go from toxic to happy. She holds a master's degree from the University of Memphis as well as coaching certifications from Transformation Academy and is fully accredited through Complementary Therapists Accredited Association (CTAA). You can connect with her on Instagram and Tiktok at @tara.relationshipcoach. Learn more at https://beacons.ai/tara.relationshipcoach.